We all know dads like these men—sons and grandsons, nephews, friends, and neighbors. They're the fathers who balance work time with kid time, who give their offspring the gift of security while teaching them to become independent, and who, if need be, would sacrifice their lives for them.
THE BASICS ARE WHAT COUNT
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As providers, dads work hard to meet their children’s needs, and if possible, to satisfy some of their wants. They’re available to protect them when necessary, such as offering comfort when they meet up with a bully at school or when some other catastrophe has knocked them back on their heels. Finally, and as Mr. Colon writes, perhaps most importantly, dads are present, meaning they weave themselves into their children’s lives as much as possible, as in going to dance recitals, teaching them to throw a football, or listening to their dreams of the future.
This formula of providing, protecting, and being present works for anyone wishing to be a good dad. It doesn’t distinguish between fathers and stepfathers. It doesn’t imply that the man who’s never played soccer in his life must coach his daughter’s team. It doesn’t suggest that the guy whose job requires long or erratic hours should feel guilty of child neglect. All it means is that we should try to satisfy these broad objectives of parenting as best we can.
Dozens of other online sites offer far more specific lists. In "Ten Qualities of a Good Father," for example, Diane Morrow-Kondos also stresses being present and protective, but then adds other vital girders of fatherhood. A good dad, for example, treats the mother of his children with respect. He "sets a good example," takes delight in his kids, and openly tells them how much he loves them.
Do these things, and the "Good Dad" title is yours.
