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11 'Girly' Things Men Wish They Could Do Without Judgment
2013-12-29
Via Sooper Mexican

For a long time, women have fought -- and are still fighting -- to overcome gender roles and expectations. However, it's important to remember that rigid ideas about what men and women "should" or "shouldn't" do isn't just bad for women.
Rigid being a keyword here. The idea of "gender roles" is absurd. Some things men do better than women and vice versa. That's not a "role". It's biological fact.
A Dec. 17th thread asked the men of Reddit, "What girly thing do you really want to do or try but it is socially unacceptable?" Responses ranged from cuddling etiquette ("Being the little spoon") to fashion woes ("Toe socks") and showing emotion ("Crying in public without getting judged").
I see GLAAD was trolling Reddit that day.
Here are 11 of our favorite answers:

1. Have more stylish clothing options. As bradleynowell252 pointed out, "Girls just get so many choices on nice things to wear and still look good, even in a casual manner." It's true that while women can wear "masculine" clothing free of judgment, the same can not be said for men in "feminine" clothing. "Also, fancy hats. It's a shame that only women get to have awesome adornments in their headwear without any social stigma," lokiikol noted.
Holy crap.
Find a justification to wear a kilt with all the accoutrements, and you're good to go. It's even utterly masculine. Granted, your argument may be a single great-grandparent or a Scotch wife, but wear it with pride, man. Wear it with pride. Also, ski hats. Yes, this does mean you'll have to take up skiing. But it also means you can invest in silk long underwear for your primary layer. Do let me recommend black.
2. Be able to talk about other men being attractive. Kbjami brought up an important point when he wrote: "Talking about how hot Brad Pitt is. I'm not gay but I find Brad Pitt quite attractive. Actually just talking about how attractive males are in general." We completely agree, men should definitely be able to compliment other men. And Brad Pitt is very attractive.
I find out if a man is attractive if a woman says so, not because I want to know. In fact, a lot of stuff I read is stuff I actually wasn't curious about, but was told. How true it is is not an issue, because, frankly, it is out of my zone.
3. Order "girly drinks." "For just once, I'd like to get to order yummy pink drinks with chunks of real fruit that guys secretly like but can't order because they'll be made fun of," responded Reddit user Dwarf--shortage. We think everyone should be able to drink Flirtinis, Mudslides and Fuzzy Navels -- they're delicious!
They may be delicious. So are most mixed drinks. But I can see it now:
GLAAD guy from Reddit (At a bar): I'll have a Fuzzy Naval.
Bartender: And what does the gentleman want?
GGFR: That is what the gentleman wants.
Bartender: You don't have a date?
GGFR: Nope. Just me.
Bartender: You know, we have a number of fine gay bars in town. Why do you have to drink that here?
GGFR: Because I am trying to break gender roles.
Bartender: I'll get you a beer.
GGFR: Bud Lite, s'il vous plat.

4. Get treated to a spa day. We can all agree that there are few places more relaxing than a spa. So why is it only socially acceptable for women to attend these heaven-on-earth establishments? Euphuist said that he would love to get a "Mani/pedi, face mask, all that jazz. Colour me intrigued.
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#19  @Besoeker
Beautiful place but no ice yet (blame global warming)
Posted by: European Conservative   2013-12-29 23:18  

#18  @Barbara
Thank You :-)
Posted by: European Conservative   2013-12-29 23:14  

#17  As per #3, that's just not right, not right at all.
Posted by: JosephMendiola   2013-12-29 18:59  

#16  I'd like to talk about how effn' awesome my collection of paintings looks in 100W incandescent full spectrum lighting.
Posted by: swksvolFF   2013-12-29 17:36  

#15  LOL gorb - Reminds me of when my one of my high school friends became a mother a few years after our graduation. She decided she didn't want her son to have any "violent toys" like guns. Almost needless to say, as soon as he became old enough every remote control, eating utensil and stick outside became a gun to aim at people and say "pow! pow!". Fortunately, she was open-minded enough to accept reality and soon let him have a toy gun.
Posted by: ryuge   2013-12-29 16:57  

#14  Sorry 3.
My theme was pedicures, you gave it quite a twist.
Posted by: Skidmark   2013-12-29 15:00  

#13  Skidmark - your post caused me to do a google search on "tumblr asian slave girls"
... troubling to say the least... esp the auctions.
Posted by: 3dc   2013-12-29 14:46  

#12  #2 - Well done, EC.
Posted by: Matt   2013-12-29 13:14  

#11  Yeah, I want to sit with my feet in a bucket fetid water dosing my liver with fumes from industrial solvents while being attended to by underage Asian slave girls in a worn down storefront...
Posted by: Skidmark   2013-12-29 12:49  

#10  ROFLMAO, #2 EC!

That's why we love you (in a sisterly/brotherly way, of course). ;-p

And yes, I've been to Bavaria. Tried to get the firefighter guy in our group to buy some tooled-leather suspenders for his turnout pants; I got some decorated with Edelweiss for mine, but he refused to get suspenders with "flowers" on them. Guess he'll never be Bayerische. :-D (Finally found him some with more "manly" designs.)
Posted by: Barbara   2013-12-29 11:44  

#9  soooo basically the "Men of Reddit™" are a bunch of emasculated p*ssies?
Posted by: Frank G   2013-12-29 10:13  

#8  Urbanists.

Remember when that Italian cruise ship hit the rock and rolled. Everyone was surprised by the 'men' who shoved women and children out of the way to get to safety. There's your future when you socialize your males as though they're just dysfunctional females.
Posted by: P2kontheroad   2013-12-29 08:10  

#7  I'm not gay but I find Brad Pitt quite attractive.

Google "male competition for females", miss.
Posted by: g(r)omgoru   2013-12-29 07:40  

#6  EC: On my 'bucket list' [wunschlist]... hike the Konigsee ice to St. Bartholomew's. Maybe.... toot my own horn about it.
~<(;-)
Posted by: Besoeker   2013-12-29 04:44  

#5  At least she tore the tires off one of them gorb - there's hope for her yet.

Now if you can get her to put it up on Legos blocks in the front yard... :)
Posted by: CrazyFool   2013-12-29 01:52  

#4  That only happened because you gave her pink sheets
Posted by: European Conservative   2013-12-29 01:49  

#3  To avoid perpetuating gender stereotypes, I gave my daughter a mix of dolls and toy cars to play with. This is what happened.

Posted by: gorb   2013-12-29 01:46  

#2  1) Have more stylish clothing options
Ever been in Bavaria? Thought so. Next
2) Be able to talk about other men being attractive
I do probably find Brad Pitt to be more attractive than... Helen Thomas or Janet Reno, so maybe that's enough of overcoming gender expectations here. I still do not want to have sex with either of them even if the looks of Helen Thomas might have improved in the last year.
3) Order “girly” drinks
Sorry. I don't even tolerate water in my whiskey.
4) Get treated to a spa day
Somehow I believe that this doesn't include Bangkok spas where girlys do things, right?
5) Carry a purse
A man knows where to put his wallet. What else does he need to carry, if not in a briefcase?
6) Dance like no oneÂ’s watching
Last guy who tried this was John Travolta. Ended up in Scientology.
7)Wear makeup
What? Tested on animals?
8)Get pampered by women
See 4
9)Wear yoga pants
It's no longer funny now
10) Have fun with oneÂ’s children without being judged
I don't get that one. But maybe that's because the girls in our family play football, too.
11) Be able to show emotion without being labeled as gay or a “p*ssy.”
If you're a fan of Bayern Munich, you have plenty of opportunities to do that in front of a crowd of 70000
Posted by: European Conservative   2013-12-29 01:44  

#1  11? None at all come to mind. And if a MAN (not a MINO) wished he could do it he would.
Posted by: Glenmore   2013-12-29 01:10  

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