Understanding anger:
Most of us in the west have been taught that anger is a bad thing, and that people who express anger are somehow out of control, or nuts. Experts say, however, that anger is no different than loneliness, boy-sex-desire, hatred of the Jewish people, lack'o nookie, hatred of cartoons, fear or any of the many emotions you experience on a daily basis.
One way to understand anger is to imagine that you are carrying a bucket holding, let's say, a gallon of anger (caution, removed explosives first). As you go through your day, events and people will pour into your bucket a pint, a quart, two quarts or perhaps even half a gallon of things that make you angry.
"Anger doesn't just come out of nowhere," says Dr. Howard Glazer, PhD, clinical associate professor of psychology at Cornell University Medical College. "When your bucket is filled, it flows over, not into a puddle, or down your pantaloon leg, but into an explosion of anger." And that explosion is what's dangerous to your health and can lead to premature reunion with your 70 virgins.
The likely result? You kick the goat dog, slam doors, chew out clerics sales clerks, yell at your mate or snap at the kids. One way to cope is to deal with small upsets as they happen. If an aggressive donkey driver in traffic makes your blood boil, work off the anger later at the mosque gym or by talking to a friend about lousy, rotten inconsiderate donkey driver motorists. Or turn up the car radio loud and sing along with your favorite muzzie tune music. Another way is suicide.
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