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| Basic bedroom fiqh (islamic jurisprudence) |
| 2005-10-11 |
| Question: I just got married, and would like to know the essential fiqh of bedroom relations. I wanted to know the fiqh of intimacy with one's spouse. Specifically what is haram, makrooh, mubah, halal..etc... Answer: It is disliked to: o Face the qibla. (Ibn `Abidin) o Be in the presence of a mature child. (Ibn `Abidin) o Talk, for it is from the sunna not to talk excessively during intercourse. (Ibn `Abidin) It is proper to cover up a Qurâan in the bedroom. (Ibn `Abidin) It is best to avoid looking at each otherâs private parts, though some Companions held that it is fine because it increases desire. (Durar) Ibn al-Hajj al-Maliki mentioned in al-Madkhal: o The beginning of the night is better⊠o One must avoid intercourse with oneâs wife before any foreplay, because it has been interdicted. Rather, one should play around with her and jest with kisses, touches and the like. Then, one sees that she is ready, prepared, and desirous of him, only then should he initiate intercourse. The wisdom of the Lawgiver in this is evident, for the woman derives pleasure as a man does. If he approaches her while she is unprepared, he may fulfill his need, but she may not, and would feel frustrated⊠o Before penetration, one should say, Bismillah Allahumma Jannibna al-Shaytan, wa Jannib ish-Shaytanu ma Razaqtana, as has been authentically reported in the sunna⊠o One should be careful to fulfill the rights of the wife with regards to intercourse, and to safeguard her religion. One should fulfill oneself [=orgasm] after she has achieved fulfillment, to be under the general rubric of the Prophetâs saying (Allah bless him and give him peace), âAllah is in the assistance of a servant as long as he is in the assistance of his fellow.â o One should not have intercourse without covers⊠o It is best to perform ghusl before sleeping after intercourse. Or, at least to do wudu and wash the private parts. [f: One should not, at the very least, leave washing the private parts.] These are general guidelines. Ruqayya Waris Maqsoodâs book on marriage goes into some detail on the subject, as does Imam al-Ghazaliâs work. Anal sex is, of course haram. Mutual hand stimulation is permitted. Sexual fluids are najis, so oral sex is detested. During mentruation (hayd), intercourse is haram. So is direct skin contact between the wifeâs navel and knee. Everything else, however, remains permitted. And Allah knows best. Answered by Sidi Faraz Rabbani of the Hanafi fiqh list. |
| Posted by:john |
| #10 al-Ghazali was the SOB that insisted that Moslems should abhor knowledge and learning unless it was based in the Koran. He and his crew were primarilly responsible for ending serious scholarship and why Moslems didn't amount to squat ever since. Much of the crap that the Moslem world is today is his responsibility. |
| Posted by: Anonymoose 2005-10-11 21:47 |
| #9 Maybe it only works with goats? |
| Posted by: john 2005-10-11 21:08 |
| #8 Hell, I can't even say "Bismillah Allahumma Jannibna al-Shaytan, wa Jannib ish-Shaytanu ma Razaqtana" right here, looking at it on my computer screen. |
| Posted by: Darrell 2005-10-11 20:53 |
| #7 Before penetration, one should say, Bismillah Allahumma Jannibna al-Shaytan, wa Jannib ish-Shaytanu ma Razaqtana, as has been authentically reported in the sunna⦠Sam Kinnison recommend "doing the alphabet" with your tongue. |
| Posted by: Robert Crawford 2005-10-11 20:41 |
| #6 Yeah, the prophet is a fine example, the rapist of a nine year old girl. He probably said |
| Posted by: john 2005-10-11 20:00 |
| #5 Some of this is actually good advice. The stuff from the Prophet himself seems the soundest. One gets the feeling that a lot of wankers took all those hadith and sunnah things much too seriously. |
| Posted by: buwaya 2005-10-11 19:54 |
| #4 Anal sex is, of course haram, bitch! bring in the boy! |
| Posted by: Frank G 2005-10-11 18:12 |
| #3 "Phi Slamma Jamma Rama Lama Ding Dong, baby." Translation: Yeah, sure I love you. Now roll over. |
| Posted by: .com 2005-10-11 18:06 |
| #2 Of course..did the good mullah say otherwise? The mature child is haram.. young children and goats are therfore allowed. |
| Posted by: john 2005-10-11 17:59 |
| #1 Can the goat stay in the room? |
| Posted by: tu3031 2005-10-11 17:13 |